To NOT Get Even

From "Don't Get Even, Get Even Better" by Karen Salmansohn, published on www.psychologytoday.com

...I'm a big believer that some of the most positive times in people's lives are when they reach "To-hell-with-this!"

A little story about a snake and a mistake:

There once was a woman who was wandering in the desert and was bitten by a poisonous snake.
All she could think about was how angry she was at this poisonous snake for biting her and angry at herself for wandering in the desert.
And so she could not relax, forgive the snake, forgive herself and thereby calmly see that she could solve this poison problem and save her life, simply by sucking out the poison from her arm, as she'd learned years ago-but forgotten because she was angry.
She passed away.
The lesson learned?
Forgiveness is a panacea for what ails you.

Anger... not only unhealthy for your mental state, but also for your body, creating coronary heart disease and high blood pressure.
Researchers at the University of Ohio have also reported an interesting finding:
angry people take even longer to recover from injury!

Many quantum physicists believe angry people give off an angry vibration which can be felt in a larger universal energy field - thereby attracting negative circumstances.
Basically, quantum physicists believe that just as there is alluring sexual attraction (which people can feel but not see), there's also angry energy repulsion (which people [also] can feel but not see).

If you think angry thoughts, you will literally emit an angry vibration that can be intuitively felt by others -- as if you're giving off an anti-charisma.

Tips:

Whenever you're feeling like you want to tell off a wrong-doer with big fat juicy angry words, talk to yourself instead... "I cannot always control what goes on outside. But I can control what goes on inside. I forgive whatever has happened in my past - and am determined to gain insights on how to wisely avoid situations like this one in my future and re-direct my energies in wiser ways - which will lead me to attaining the life I want."

Encourage yourself to believe that everything happens for a reason - then choose to consciously seek and find that reason.

Tell yourself: "We are all good, loving souls who occasionally get lost."

Remind yourself of a time you were forgiven. Be altruistic. Forgive back to the one who has done you wrong.

Remind yourself that when you resent someone you give them control of your emotions. You don't want to give whoever has done you wrong that kind of power.

Remind yourself when you respond with hate to hate, anger to anger, bitterness to bitterness, you ironically become part of the problem.

Remind yourself that when you train your brain to think more loving thoughts, your positive energy attracts more positive people and results.

Living a happy, successful life is the best revenge!